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| Jul 05, 2010 3:34 am |
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`in conversation' on wedding and divorce |
charu hasan
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The `In Conversation’ with Psychiatrist Dr. Vijay Nagasamy by Deepa Onkar is in total, based on a forced and accepted premise such as the statue of Kannagi in Marina Beach is a necessary component for inculcating right sex education to women in general and wives in particular. Recently the cops prevented the marriage of several village girls under permissible legal age of marriage. The Supreme Court has expressed its own concept of the age of consent for sex to define rape of wife by the husband. There is express provision in Indian Penal Code that there can not be a complaint of rape of a wife by her own husband except when the wife is below the age of consent. In the Satellite exposure of the minor girls none of them spoke about the compulsion by the parents. Subject to correction I could see a little of disappointment in few of them that they have been prevented by authorities in their access to socially permitted sex.
I have been a defense counsel in at least 15 to twenty cases of rape in which 50 % of them were false complaints girls and boys indulging in sex, where the girl was forced to make a complaint and even depose. In one particular case I knew where a major girl who had lived for week as couple for a week was brought home and a complaint of rape was charge sheeted. I just asked the accused boy to sit opposite to the girl in the court veranda and keep shedding tears till the case was taken up.
When she got into the witness box, without any effort from me she broke down in the chief examination and said that she loved him and asked him to tie a thali, ran away with him and stayed in a city hotel for a week and lived as husband and wife. The public prosecutor complained that the defense counsel was guilty of professional misconduct in advising the accused to shed tears. In fact the Sub Judge asked me whether I had the courage to admit it in the witness box. I said that I need a written order from court to charge sheet me for any offence under any law.
The concept of marriage and chastity are the compulsions of the society that had made the laws on legal marriages and legitimacy of children. Now that I am a legal father of three children can any one of them ask the other to go through a DNA test and even if one is proved not compatible with the male parent’s DNA can that have any legal effect except to throw a cloud on the faithfulness of the mother.
Divorce is yet another alienation of love and affection as one that happens between parents and children, brothers and sisters or any other kind of close relationship.
There need not be such emotional response that one political party against an actress who came out with an opinion contrary to a violent minority that needed our apex court to provide a remedy. Neither marriages are made in heaven nor divorces in Hell.
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